我非常喜欢的美国休斯敦大学教授Brené Brown的两个#TED#演讲：“脆弱的力量”以及"聆听羞耻"，曾触动了很多人的心。前段时间她上奥普拉的节目，谈论如何全心(wholehearted)地生活，话题涉及脆弱、羞耻、感恩等方面。期间Oprah叫Brené朗读了一段其新书Daring Greatly的一段有关教养孩子的话。她一边听，一边不断点头感叹，并直嚷嚷想要这样的妈妈和爸爸。最后流着泪建议所有的家庭都应该把这段话贴在厨房里。

当我大声朗读这段话的时候，渐渐地也不禁泪涟涟，心中涌起一股难以形容的爱和感动。我觉得它不仅适合所有已经或是即将成为父母的朋友，也很适合所有还是单身的朋友念给内心那个一直觉得自己不可爱，没有价值感的内在小孩听。

The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto

Above all else, I want you to know that you are loved and loveable.

You will learn this from my words and actions—the lessons on love are in how I treat you and how I treat myself.

I want you to engage with the world from a place of worthiness.

You will learn that you are worthy of love, belonging, and joy every time you see me practice self-compassion and embrace my own imperfections.

We will practice courage in our family by showing up, letting ourselves be seen, and honoring vulnerability. We will share our stories of struggle and strength. There will always be room in our home for both.

We will teach you compassion by practicing compassion with ourselves first; then with each other. We will set and respect boundaries; we will honor hard work, hope, and perseverance. Rest and play will be family values, as well as family practices.

You will learn accountability and respect by watching me make mistakes and make amends, and by watching how I ask for what I need and talk about how I feel.

I want you to know joy, so together we will practice gratitude.

I want you to feel joy, so together we will learn how to be vulnerable.

When uncertainty and scarcity visit, you will be able to draw from the spirit that is a part of our everyday life.

Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain, but instead I will sit with you and teach you how to feel it.

We will laugh and sing and dance and create. We will always have permission to be ourselves with each other. No matter what, you will always belong here.

As you begin your Wholehearted journey, the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly.

I will not teach or love or show you anything perfectly, but I will let you see me, and I will always hold sacred the gift of seeing you. Truly, deeply, seeing you.

写得真美呀！下面就是这段视频。PS 这个采访好几个视频都很值得看，喜欢这两位像闺蜜版叽叽喳喳，谈论的却是很有见地的话题。

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